I’ve been using all different types of dating resources for years now.  It started with the dating websites, ya know the originals; Jdate, Match and Eharmony.  Then some free ones came out Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish aka POF.  You move onto the free ones because you realize that it’s the same bullsh$t on all of them including the same people so why should you be paying for it?  Next came the smart phone apps.  Tinder was ground breaking with its swipe to the left for a hook up.  Soon after came Hinge which connected you through third party connections on Facebook, Happn that connects you with people that you have supposedly crossed paths with within their GPS system which may or may not be accurate.  On any one of these tools to find your mate people come and people go.  A lot of the time you chat via txt message or email and never even meet, like I’ve mentioned before the disappearing act is quite common.  Then there are these rare occurrences that come into play.  There are the ones that pop up out of the wood works after months, sometimes even years.  The returned.

Just this past Monday I get two messages on Tinder.  Both just happened to be people that I had connected with a year ago.  First one is Frederico.  I get a random txt on Tinder from him.

Frederico:  hello beautiful Danielle!  Not sure if you remember me but I wanted to say hello before I take myself off of this app.

I open the message and honestly I’m like who the hell is this guy?  I back track through the older messages that are above it and they date back to May of last year.  Really dude?  What does this guy want?  I research a little further all the way to the beginning of our txt trail and see that after the basic back and forth he asks if I would like to meet for a drink sometime and I say sure and give him my number.  I obviously never heard from him if I didn’t remember him.

Danielle:  hi, I just looked back at our messages and we connected almost a year ago.

Frederico:  yes I know, but I never forgot about you.

Danielle:  well I see that I gave you my number and I don’t recall ever hearing from you or we would have met no?

Frederico: ah Danielle it was actually you that never responded when I txt you.

Danielle:  really that’s strange.  Here’s my number again so we can continue this conversation off of the app.

A txt comes through to my phone from him and he’s not programmed in my phone.  Obviously he never contacted me or he would have been.  I continue to entertain this guy with conversation:

Frederico:  well Danielle why don’t we give this another try, I remember everything about you and or conversation a year ago.  I think you live in the same neighborhood as me, so let’s meet for a drink?

Duh you idiot, you can read our convo from a year ago in Tinder just like I did and al of the information I gave you about myself is still there.  Sneaky, sneaky.  These guys must think we are so dumb.

Danielle:  oh yeah? So you have a good memory?  That’s nice.  Sure we can meet for a drink.

Frederico:  I’m traveling this coming weeks end into the weekend so how about tonight?

Danielle: I could make tonight work.  I could meet you at 9 after my class at the gym.

Frederico: ok that works.

Danielle: do you have a place in mind?

Frederico:  I would love to take you to the rainbow room and show off my Fred Astaire moves but unfortunately it closed tonight.

Danielle: lol

I wait the rest of the day for a place that we are meeting from him and I hear nothing.  I go to the gym and when I get out still no word from him, so I head home.  At 8:30 I hear from him with a txt.

Frederico:  hello beautiful….so are we going to wait another year?

Danielle: well we don’t have to wait another year but it’s not happening tonight.  I’m already home.

Frederico:  wait, why?  I told you that 9pm worked.

Danielle:  you never gave me a place that we were meeting at.  I would have gotten ready at the gym and met you from there.

Frederico:  oh come on we live close let’s meet for one glass of wine.

Danielle: sorry I’m already making myself some dinner.  Would have worked out if you have made a plan.

Frederico:  oh Danielle you can do it.

Danielle: sorry no I can’t, by the time I shower and get ready it will be late and I have work early in the morning.  Perhaps another time.

Frederico: ok, next time I will plan better.

We tried to make plans for the next night but I got tied up and it didn’t work out.  We said we would try again and in the mean time he send me quotes from songs and its quite cheesy to be honest.  Just out of curiosity I went on to Tinder to see if he had really taken himself off of the app and of course he hadn’t.  He had actually been active within the past 20 minutes of me checking.  Shocker.  These guys are like little trolls, and when they are bored they troll through all of the profiles of women that they had forgotten about due to all of the other options and figure hey? Why not?  Let me try this one again!  It’s absolutely hilarious.  

On the same evening that I was texting with Frederico a message comes in from someone that was programmed in my phone as Maurizio Tinder.  I don’t remember this guy either!  His txt reads.

Maurizio:  hi Danielle!  How are you?

I research again in my Tinder inbox and find him.  He’s another one that just disappeared.

Danielle: hi, wow it’s been a long time.

Maurizio:  yes I know, I had a family emergency and had to go home to Europe for a while.

Danielle:  oh, I hope that everything wih your family is ok.

Maurizio:  thank you, my father passed away.

Oh jeez…ok this guy I’ll let off the hook.

Danielle:  I’m so sorry.

Maurizio: thanks, that’s life.

Maurizio and I have been staying in touch via txt message for almost a week now.  We have plans to see each other this week, I still don’t know very much about him so we shall see.

These little experiences make me think, is it worth it to give someone that you never even met another chance?  Or did it not work out the first time for a reason?  I’ve gone back for seconds before and it hasn’t worked out so why would it with this one?  Stay open right?  Go out of your comfort zone, what do you have to loose?  Time folks, I hate wasting time!  There’s nothing worse that putting yourself out there just to be disappointed again.  Wasting that lipstick again.  But like I’ve said, I’ll do it again.  I am the queen of optimism.  He’s out there somewhere and maybe he’s one that had to give it a second try to come out first.

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