This one is going to be short and sweet, and it’s going to include a word to the wise……

Last week I went on another glorious match.com date. I really don’t know why I continue to waste my time and money on that site, but here we go. This was the guy who canceled on me for a Saturday night date an hour an a half before we were supposed to meet the weekend prior, and then pleaded to reschedule to justify that he really was sick and not just another jerk that cancels last minute because he doesn’t feel like going on the date anymore.

We’ll call him Calvin

Age: 42

Single, never been married

No children

Lives on the UWS

Good Job

Good Looking

We meet at a lovely rooftop bar near my office and it was another situation where I was pleasantly surprised that he actually looked like his pictures and seemed quite nice. We met at 6:30pm, and were sitting at a great little cocktail table where we were having great conversation over drinks. By the time we were about to order the third round which was almost 2 hours in, he looked at me for my approval to get another round, and at that moment I said to him…

Danielle: Sure I’ll have another one if you would like one, or we can call it a night as well, you know I like to give the option of an out if you’re not enjoying yourself. (in a little of a jokingly way)

Now note that I said this on purpose because I refused to be on another date that takes three hours of my time to number 1: not feed me and number 2: never contact me again. So I 100% gave this guy an out if he wanted one.

Calvin: Oh no I’m having a really good time, let’s get another one.

Danielle: Ok sounds great, let’s do that.

We order another round of drinks and continue to have a very nice conversation. I then ask him if he’s eaten and he says…

Calvin: Oh yeah, I’ve kept you here for a few hours I should feed you shouldn’t I?

Well look at that, he actually said something that made sense! I was liking this guy.

We ordered a couple of appetizers and it seemed to be going quite well. We even discussed getting together another time, that following Sunday to be exact. We wrapped things up and he walked me to a cab. We said our good night, little peck on the lips and I was off. I txt him to thank him for a lovely evening and that it was very nice to have met him and he replied that he had a great time and sweet dreams. Now you would think, a three hour date, where he fed you and replied with a nice txt back on top of making plans to meet again was a good date right? You would think that you’re going to hear from that guy again. Well boy oh boy was he another one that fooled me.

I was away with friends for the Labor Day Weekend Holiday and knew that I was going to be coming back to New York late Sunday night, so I sent Calvin a txt to say hi and see how his weekend was going earlier that day, as I had not heard from him. I was hoping to get a reply and then discuss getting together again. This guy never txt me back at all! Not even with some lame lie as an excuse for why he couldn’t make plans, nothing at all. He radio silenced me. This is something that I absolutely cannot stand. You are a 42 year old man, and you don’t even have the manners or decency to get back to a woman that you took on a three hour date? I even gave him an out, so if he wasn’t having a good time he could have gone on his merry way and not wasted anymore of my time. What a douche bag.

Here I am almost a week after this date with Calvin, and I meet a friend for dinner and drinks in a local spot that I frequent. I tell her the story of this last jerk that I went out with and that I still hadn’t heard back from him. She looks at me in disgust and says “ you should call him out, send him a txt and put him on the spot”. At first I was thinking eh, what’s the point, he’ll just continue to be a coward and I still won’t hear back from him. Then as we discussed it further, and another glass of wine in, I figured what the heck, I have absolutely nothing to loose. I sent him the following txt…

“Hi Calvin…I’m sorry but did I read you wrong? I thought that after the date that we had I would have at least gotten a reply from you, whether it was a positive or negative one”.

I sitting there thinking there is no way that this douche bag is going to reply. Low and behold about 10 minutes later in comes a txt from him.

“Hi D…I really did enjoy meeting you, and I think you’re a great girl. I now I realize that I should have gotten back to you and I sincerely apologize.”

Seriously?!?!? F you and the horse you rode in on buddy. That was a I’ll txt you back so that I don’t feel like the asshole that I am txt.

So after that experience, I have created the Douche Bag Club and Calvin is the honorary first member to get in. Believe me, there are many that belong in the club, but because I just started it he gets to be the first member.

Word to the wise fellas….don’t be a douche bag. You don’t want to be in the Douche Bag Club.

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