In the words of the Notorious BIG, “I’ve Got a Story To Tell”.

 

Boy oh boy has it been an interesting couple of months folks.

 

Have you ever had a moment when you’re presented with something very pretty and shiny and new, but you know that you’re too old to play with toys anymore? You know you should put the toy back on the shelf and walk away, but that new plastic smell just draws you in. Its moments like that where you know it’s doomed from the start but you except the invitation to play anyway because we are all kids at heart, and we all have moments where our brains say what the heck, go for it, have some fun, you never know.

 

I had my moment with that shiny toy, and I didn’t put him back on the shelf and walk away.

 

I decided to get out of the city for a weekend and go see a close girlfriend of mine in Connecticut. We had a great night planned with dinner and drinks in her neighborhood and I was really looking forward to it. I arrived at her place and we had some quality girl time that included wine time of course, where a suitor of hers had asked if he and his friend could meet us for a drink after we were finished with dinner. She accepted and I just prayed that his friend wasn’t going to be a complete doozy. We had a lovely dinner and were on our way to a bar up the street where these two men greeted us. Not only was his friend not a doozy, he was a brand new shiny youngin action figure that wasn’t going back on the shelf whether I liked it or not. We’ll call him Jeff. Jeff was 11 years younger then I. Red flag number 1. He was a smart young lawyer, good looking, great energy and funny as hell. There was an instant connection. The conversation between us was fantastic and he made laugh like I hadn’t laughed in a very long time. We had a great night and when we parted ways he was actually the real deal. Contacted me right away and made plans to see me the next day.   We watched football together and spent the entire day together until I had to head back to the city. We saw each other the following week and continued to see each other regularly from that point on. I felt comfortable with him and that was there from the beginning. I could be me.

 

One day Jeff told me that he wasn’t happy at his current job in the Conn courts and had quit. He quit without having another job lined up. Red Flag number 2. He was interviewing a bit and I was trying to help with any connections that I had along with friend’s contacts. Weeks were going by with nothing. I was starting to feel very uneasy about this to say the least. I don’t mean to be petty, but come on, you have to have a job! Being laid off is one thing. But quitting just because you don’t like it is another. I remained supportive and swallowed my opinions about it for the time being.

 

We came upon a weekend that Jeff and I were going to a Giants game with my girlfriend and his best friend that introduced us. They had been seeing each other as well. I was so excited. I had never been to a NFL game before and couldn’t wait to get there. Jeff’s cousin and her boyfriend joined us as well, so we were three couples. As soon as the cousin arrived Jeff was someone else. Not attentive to me in the least, drinking too much and acting like……well, acting like his age. In the car on our way to the game I got to chat with his cousin. When I asked her where she lived she said with her parents in conn. When Jeff and I first met he told me that he lived with a couple of his cousins. I thought this was a roommate situation. As I was sitting next to his young female cousin I looked at him and said “Jeff is this the cousin that you live with?”, he answered “yup”. So he was living with his cousin and her parents, his Aunt and Uncle. Red flag number 3. As the day went on at the game he would disappear from our seats for almost an hour with no word to me and when he returned it was like I wasn’t even there. What I realized that day was that Jeff and I were just in two different places in our lives and that I had been overlooking it because we had a lot of fun together and he was the sweetest anyone had been to me in a long time. The reality is, sometimes age isn’t just a number. Red flags 1-3 were officially too much for me. After that Sunday, I decided to return my shiny toy. I declined the store credit. I now know I can’t shop in toy stores anymore.

 

Almost two months had passed when I was seeing Jeff and I hadn’t been seeing anyone else. I had taken all of the dating apps off of my phone and it felt great to not have to deal with that world. But when a relationship ends what else am I going to do? Back on the apps, how exciting!

 

I will share one of my first date experiences with you that was a perfect welcome back serenade.

 

It’s Thanksgiving Eve. I had connected with a Dr. on Happn the day prior and he asked me to meet for a drink. I had dinner plans and he did as well so we decided to play it by ear and meet afterwards if it wasn’t too late. I was at one of my local spots and we ended up finishing at the same time. I told him where I was and to meet me there. I’m sitting at the bar waiting for him and I have people on both sides of me as the place was full. I see someone that looked like him come in and look right at me and then walk right out. I then get a txt from him that says “I was just there and didn’t see anyone sitting alone so I left”. I txt him back.

 

Danielle: I’m here at the bar and it’s full, so there are people next to me. Come on back”.

 

(We’ll call him Donald.)

 

Donald: You’re with a guy.

 

(I was sitting next to a local that I know from my neighborhood and we were talking while I waited).

 

Danielle: I know him from the neighborhood. I am not with him. You’re being silly.

 

Donald: I think we should meet when you’re not with someone else. Not cool Danielle.

 

Danielle: Are you being serious?

 

Donald: I mean the first night we are supposed to meet and you’re with another guy?

 

Danielle: This is insane. Do you seriously think I would have you meet me somewhere when I’m with someone else? It’s a crowded bar. This one goes down in the books. Take care and Happy Thanksgiving.

 

 

The crazies just find me. I swear they do. It’s great to be back…..I’m sure I’ll have many more stories to come!

 

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